Say Hard Things Soft
– Monday Mindset –

Today’s Monday Mindset: Say Hard Things Soft

I was in a video shoot yesterday creating a video series for the thousand plus observing coaches who are going to attend a PGC camp this summer.

And when I finished one of the videos, I turned to my videographer Dimitri and said, “I think that was 95%, but I think that’s good. Hey, we’ll move on…”. And he said, “I think you can do it better than that.” And I said, “Really? I mean, it was 95%.” And he said, “Let’s shoot it over. You got this. “

And what I loved about what he did was he held me to an even higher standard than I was holding myself to. And I thought the video was really good. 95% of the way there, it’s hard to get 100%.

And he said, “You got this.” But what he did was he delivered the message to me, a hard message, called me up.

Didn’t call me out, called me up, but he delivered a hard message in a soft way, in a way that I could receive it. He was making me better.

Who do you have in your life that is making you better? And are you making others better around you?

And are you able to not deliver a hard message in a hard way that makes it difficult, make somebody defensive, but to deliver a hard message in a soft way?

And you don’t want to not deliver it at all because if you don’t deliver it at all because you don’t want to ruffle somebody’s feathers or upset them, then you’re not actually making them better.

And that’s not actually kind and generous. Kind is what he did, a hard message in a soft way. So look for opportunities to make others better, find people who can make you better, put that into practice.

That’s my challenge, and that’s your Monday Mindset.