This is Going to Sound Bad...
– Monday Mindset –

Today’s Monday Mindset: This is Going to Sound Bad…

 
Now, this is going to sound kind of bad, but I want to be real with you guys because I had something happen and I was blaming somebody for it.

I didn’t actually say anything to them, but in my own mind I was blaming them. And when you blame, it can take you to all sorts of bad places.

I realized I needed to adopt and apply a PGC principle that we teach players and coaches at some of our basketball camps.

It’s a principle of ultra ownership instead of a victim mentality.

A victim mentality is when you go to a place of blame or complaining or making excuses. I realized I needed to pull myself back to the perspective of ultra ownership, which is, what do I own in this?

Here’s what happens when you take an ultra ownership perspective.

You own what you can own. When you do this – it tends to change everything. It changes your perspective. You see things differently.

I actually put pen to paper. I came up with four things I own. The moment I did that, well for one finger pointing at somebody else, I had four fingers pointing back at me and it completely took the edge off.

I no longer had any resentment. And in fact, it turned inward to, “Wow, I’ve got a lot to learn. I’ve got a lot to grow in, and I need to be bigger in my own mind.” PGC founder Dick DeVenzio called it living between your own ears. So, I adopted the principle I chose to live between my own ears.

My challenge to you today is if you have any type of breakdown, maybe it’s a relationship issue with a friend, with a parent, with a child, with a spouse, somebody at work, whoever it may be with, or it’s just a situation that’s gone wrong. Things have gotten messed up.

Instead of going to blame or to complain or to make excuses, take ultra ownership, and just ask yourself the question, “What do I own?”

Ruthlessly ask yourself the question and see what you come up with. Put pen to paper. And when you do that, you’ll realize that you can own nearly anything and you’ll just live bigger. It’ll help you to work through issues faster because nothing makes a situation worse than when you add to it and stockpile on to it, blame, and complaining, and making excuses.

So if you want to live bigger, which is a form of having mental toughness, and if you want to be able to work through things quicker, then live between your own ears and take on an ultra ownership perspective.

That’s your Monday Mindset.